One of the most common questions friends have asked me and my now wife is, do you feel different? I suppose this is because they didn’t realize me and her have been having a relationship for more than 5 years. At that point in a relationship, marriage is just but an official thing to do. In addition, we’ve been living together nearly as long as we’ve been together. So, even our habits are kind of known to one another.
And speaking of the next chapter, coming up is the wedding. Some call it the big day. Others who’ve been through it recently, organizing it themselves and realizing how much you spend, would consider it a show.
To be honest, at this point of time, I couldn’t help but agree with the wifey that I can’t wait to get this over and done. Sure, I’m excited to see the results of our planning and dinner venue. However, when money is something you don’t really have but have to use, there isn’t any joy in this big day. You’re constantly thinking about if you have enough money for this and if you want this, it would then cost more. Where is the joy in that-la?!
What I’d like to do after this wedding is plan my financials for myself, wifey and kids (to come). Be disciplined in my budget while enjoying living the rest of my life.
I can’t continue living a life plagued by having to think about my financial. That is NOT living.
It’s really the little things you do which makes you feel more appreciated and proud. As humble as I can choose to be, I still have an ego to fulfill at times. 😛
For instance, me and Ariel were invited for a food tasting at Ritz Carlton previously. While seated at the table, I can’t help but notice most of our company were either brides-to-be with their bridesmaids. First thought jumped to mind, where were their grooms?
Then at a separate occasion, we were speaking to another person who also mentioned, normally it’s the brides who handle the wedding. I couldn’t really understand why is that. Or, is it really because of the whole if I, the groom, had it my way, we’d have strippers and beer challenges for our wedding. Odd.
So it was really nice to be noticed, as the groom who was doing things with his future wife. I guess that’s also thanks to the fact me and Ariel love the same theme in mind.
Now, all we have to do is cross the biggest hurdle. The venue.
It’s really been a testing month for me. My patience and my positivity most of all.
Whoever said a wedding is affordable, fuck you. Just admit you didn’t want to create the memorable wedding and you didn’t want to make it happen.
Hotels in KL are charging exorbitantly for their ballrooms from minimum of RM1800 not including the 16% service charge and government tax. And, there aren’t Chinese restaurants which are nice yet cater to non-halal patrons. If you’re an entrepreneur in F&B, think about that.
Work too has been crazy. Malaysian clients think time stops for them and assume everything can be done very quickly. When you explain to them, they think you’re the one giving excuses, instead of using their ears to listen.
Well, I can’t wait to start on our side project. It’ll channel new breath and a different scenery. No more need to explain to people who don’t listen in the first place.
Can’t wait for September to start and leave this grey hair manifestation month of August.